Is there not a third way? Can't kids be encouraged to play with toys culturally assigned to both genders and encouraged to see their bodies, as they are, as beautiful and right for them? I hate the therapy that takes a kid's toys away and constricts his/her play, but seeing your perfectly functional body as malformed (which so many transgendered kids and adults do) is psychological dysfunction, chez moi, and I'd like to think a therapist would work with a kid who feels that way...