Gah! Let's try again and I'll try not to sound like a judgemental arsehole.
There are different types of friend. The ones we like and the ones we love. The tendency with the ones we love is to invest a lot of time, emotion and trust in them. We place large amounts of our lives in their hands. We recommend them to other friends as people, we publicly state our support for them and like for them and help them if we can.
With this type of friend, after you have put all that into them, you link yourself to them, both personally and in everyone else's mind. If they act in a way that you cannot condone, you have to publically condemn them and probably remove your friendship or you are tarred with the same brush.
When your own moral compass does not prevent you acting in a certain way, it is possible that the way it will reflect on your friends might, nay, should.
Obviously you should act as your conscience dictates, but you have to be able to justify yourself to at least your own, if not your friends satisfaction, otherwise you have callously and selfishly hurt the people that care about you.
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There are different types of friend. The ones we like and the ones we love. The tendency with the ones we love is to invest a lot of time, emotion and trust in them. We place large amounts of our lives in their hands. We recommend them to other friends as people, we publicly state our support for them and like for them and help them if we can.
With this type of friend, after you have put all that into them, you link yourself to them, both personally and in everyone else's mind. If they act in a way that you cannot condone, you have to publically condemn them and probably remove your friendship or you are tarred with the same brush.
When your own moral compass does not prevent you acting in a certain way, it is possible that the way it will reflect on your friends might, nay, should.
Obviously you should act as your conscience dictates, but you have to be able to justify yourself to at least your own, if not your friends satisfaction, otherwise you have callously and selfishly hurt the people that care about you.